Saturday, June 29, 2013

Farm Logic.

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They tried to tell girls in school that "guys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses."

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Of course, if there was any truth to that they would have had the women meeting an extra day each week just to crochet eyeglasses for the future virgin brides of the masses.

The fact our parents managed to say that with a straight face is a real tribute to subtle brainwashing techniques used on farmers and cattle across the Canadian Prairies. In other words, they had to believe the lie in order to perpetrate it. It kind of brings the whole parenting routine into question on account of if you have brainwashing to the point where you forget the teflon spandex superman leotard strength of teenage boy hormones, then whoa ... can you say toasted brain cells?

Maybe everything else they said is suspect too. Like maybe no-one cares or even checks if you have clean underwear in the police car. Perhaps the whole eat your crusts, curly hair thing is also a farce.

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Frankly the boys I went to school with were happy to make a pass at anything that moved, which is why the livestock and the women are locked up at night ...

. . . to protect the innocent ...

. . . that being the farm boys of course.

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Thursday, June 27, 2013

The Secret of Fashion.

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I think the confused look in fashion is one of the best bets to go with.

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There are a lot of adjectives to go through in fashion before you are left with nothing but bat-shit crazy. It works even better if you look kind of bored with just a tad of constipation - THAT is the preferred face look. I think that is because men everywhere have answered questionaires in magazines stating that once a woman looks bored AND constipated . . . they are hooked, gonzo, ready to shop china patterns, willing to kiss Grandma Ruth.

But the more unrelated stuff you put together and the more constipated you look, voila you have fashion. And if people laugh you sneer and say they are so gauche and so behind the times.

Trust me they will all be wearing the same thing tomorrow. Not because they like it or anything ...

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Just in case it is the next thing and just in case you are someone they should know and they didn't know and they should know you.

Because when you looked that constipated, you raised a serious doubt in their own rock hard fashion knowingitallis armour.

Say "No" to Ex-Lax.

And now you know ... how hard it must be to be a model who needs to be both thin and yet appear to be constipated ... talk about muscle control ...that is talent.


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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

The Bottom Line.

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There are some distinct differences between men and women that just should not be crossed over to each other, even if you can.

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Do you notice that when we talk about equality between men and women we are always talking about the things that women can not do as well as man. Like we are all just dying to one day be allowed to break free and act more like a man. We don't talk about men trying to become more like a woman. Why not? Because that would be ridiculous. They can't, so why even try.

Just stand there and wait and see if women can do it as well as you. And men feel pretty confident, regardless of what big steps women make, men will probably always still own being able to spit further and burp louder and fart so bad that an entire community ends up under nuclear threat for 3 weeks. Why? Because women wouldn't even want to own that "distinction."

So it comes down to probably about one thing that men have on women that we will concede.

Moustaches.

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Like just because some men look good with moustaches, believe me, no woman ever does. No. Woman. Ever.


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SL Relationship Interviews - Anonymous Female 3

Romance Interviews Anonymous Female 3


In your relationship (s) who has usually been the instigator? If it was not you, were you even thinking of finding a relationship or were you "persuaded" into one?

I have had four committed relationships in SL. All of them have been more or less organic – we were people who hung out together and whose feelings gradually became more complex.
 

Is there a typical first date? What is it like? Do you actually do things in SL or is it just about the relationship on the internet and you happened to meet in SL?

I think most first dates are explorations together. You hear about a great sim, and you go to explore it, all the while having those intense “get to know you” IM conversations. I often say if people put the hours of one-to-one time in on rl relationships that they do in sl relationships, the rl ones would be just as compelling.

That said, I do know that some people arrive in sl determined to find a second life partner, and standard dates I know of would be things like going to Franks or Inspire Space Park J


After the first date, what do you typically do together?

My relationships have always started out of shared interests, and my lovers have always liked to do the same things I like to do. My SL is a busy one, so anyone I get involved with has to accept that work is part of life with me. They also have to accept that a heightened profile – at least in our circles – is part of the deal.


How quickly did you know it was love?

I don’t believe love happens quickly. Attraction happens quickly, and if you’re lucky, it forms the basis of a real bonding experience.


How big a role did sex play in this? Was it confined to SL or did it spill outside of it?

I was a late bloomer to SLex. My first partner and I both thought the whole thing was a bit ludicrous, and didn’t bother with it, though I was very curious, and also aware of how empathetic I was toward my avatar. In my second relationship I was keen and he was sceptical. I think of my third relationship as my first “adult” relationship, in that we were both enthusiastically sexual. In my last, and current relationship, SLex was an important part of the first twelve months, but has subsided now. In this relationship skype has also played a role.


How does SL enhance or detract from the sexual aspects of a relationship, if it was part of yours.

As mentioned, I strongly empathise with my avatar. If I like you, she will stand close to you. If you hug her, I feel it. So SLex is an important part of the relationship for me, but it’s also hard to sustain. Like most experiences in SL, the more immersed you are in the situation, the more genuine, or true to your real feelings, your responses are. So when you are newly enamoured of someone, the virtual closeness is easy. You spend all night with someone, in an emotional space, perhaps holding or hugging in virtual space, and from there the “mood” is right for sex.

Sadly, just like in real life, it’s possible to get complacent, and then the rigmarole of having virtual sex, being on land where you can rez, busting out the poseballs, editing the weirdness out, prevents you from bothering.

I think it would be possible to be conscious of this, and prepare for it, or take steps to keep the thrill alive, but it’s not what I am doing. We have no intentions of ever going to real life with our relationship, and we have had some rl issues to contend with, so we let it go and operate on a different level now.


What was your real life situation and were you honest about it to your partner(s) ?

I am single and a single mother, and my last rl relationship was very damaging. I have no intention of forming a rl relationship right now and am very open about this. In some ways I use SL as a substitute for the love life I am not willing to have right now, and even as a therapeutic tool.


What was your partner(s) real life situation and were they honest?

My partners have always been my friends first, so they have never been dishonest about their reality.


Do you think it is possible for two people to have a relationship in second life on one level and another relationship in real life? Why and how could that work or not work?

All of my lovers have had rl relationships running concurrently at some point with our sl relationship.


Did you meet in real life? How did that go? Was it as satisfying as your SL experience? (if no skip next two questions)

While I have been part of many internet meet-ups in the past, and have met lots of the friends I have made inworld, I have not hooked up with an SL lover, and I don’t intend this in the foreseeable future. I tend to form relationships with people in a different part of the world to mine, with people who have relatively stable rl partnerships, specifically to avoid taking it to rl.


What, if anything, were you most disappointed about?

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What, if anything, was the most pleasant surprise?

NA


Did you marry in SL? If so, what kind of a wedding and what was the expense involved?


I married once. We eloped, because the pressure to have a big wedding seemed out of proportion to what we were doing by partnering. Of course, as soon as we announced we had partnered, there was a big impromptu party, including photos all over the web. We became suddenly very aware of how easy it would be for his rl partner to see and be hurt by this information. I will never marry again in SL. I say that because I see no reason to end things with my current partner, who has a rl wife who might be hurt by that, but also, at least by observation, I find nothing kills a great relationship faster than marriage.


Did you have children? How was that?

Good grief no. I don’t even … what IS that about?


How long did the whole relationship last? How long after the marriage did it last? Is it still ongoing?

All of my relationships but one have lasted over a year. My current relationship has been going for more than two years


If applicable, how did you ultimately break up? Did either of you cheat on the other?

Of the four relationships I have been in, real life reclaimed two of them, one ended when I couldn’t manage feeling insecurity (turned out I was right, and he was cheating, of course) and one is current.


Ever been caught by a third party that also claimed a relationship with your partner? Were you blamed for the situation?

No. I am kind of too high-profile to hide J


Are you still friends?

I am still very good friends with all of my lovers, and am cared for by all of them.


What, if anything, do you regret the most?

I have no real regrets, though each ending has been very sad.


What, if anything, did you gain?

I have cried, laughed, learned and been part of truly enriching experiences with really remarkable men. I am honoured to have their affection.


How many relationships do you think you have had in SL?

As above - four


What is your opinion on relationships in SL and are they healthy for people to get involved in? What are the key points people should consider before getting involved?

I believe relationships in SL offer a rare opportunity to learn about yourself and others. SL is a social medium, in the first place. It’s just better with an accomplice. If you can build the foundations of your relationships on honesty and shared interests, you can potentially be part of an emotionally enriching experience, one that is as real as any relationship.

The first and most important thing is to figure out what you want, and be honest about it. Then look for someone who has also figured out what they want, and is being honest with themselves about it. Problems arise when people pretend they don’t want rl when they do, or when they pretend they want a monogamous relationship but they don’t. Or when they seize on the first mate they come across, without looking for someone who has similar interests and ethics to them.

SL is an excellent tool for knowing yourself. It distils the essential aspects of your personality, and puts you in the kind of “high-speed” environment where things develop fast. If you can keep up, and if you are interested in analysing who you are, you can learn a great deal, and the relationships you form will be a reflection of that.

Yes, you will hurt. Yes, you will struggle to manage it all. But you aren’t giving or getting anything real if you don’t.

Be aware of the possibility for compulsion. If your heart is hungry, you have no resistance to this very deep whirlpool you are in.

Be respectful. Be honest. Be kind. Look for people who are like you. Be true to yourself, because this is the one place where you can be exactly who you are and still be loved for it by someone.
 
This is the fourth of the next series of interviews for Blissimo concerning SL. This series is all about relationships. You can read the first interview here:
Interview 1 - Anonymous Female
Interview 2 - Anonymous Female 2
Interview 3 -  Shaye Windlow

This next series is probably a bit more revealing, and I anticipate that people will me more reluctant to share their actual names. I have no problem with that because the point of these interviews is to stimulate discussion, not to persecute or praise individuals. I appreciate the honesty the subjects have provided in sharing bits of themselves for that purpose. As with the first subject, I have asked for anyone interested to contact me and I will send them the questions. I can be reached in SL, here, or via email: blisswindlow@hotmail.com
 
SL REVIEW SERIES: 
 

Hood Ornaments of Life.

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It takes a lot of work to be a hood ornament.

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I know some people just think anything laying on or thrown across the hood of a car, is technically a "hood ornament," but those of us who are much more cultured know that there is a whole lot more to it than most people realize.

You have to know the tricks of the trade like putting vaseline on your teeth so you can smile and the bugs will slide right off your teeth.

You also need to know where to find gold pantyhose that can deflect small rocks, dead gophers, and bullets.

Then you have to get stiff and stick your "Mount" because in these gymnastics a "dismount" is like "dead" on account of if you come off a car speeding down the highway at 100 km hr no-one really can see if your toe was pointed or if you stuck the landing ... there is only one position and it is called "tomato shmoosh." The only problem is that regardless of whether you fully commit to your dismount or not, the results will be the same.

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So kids at home, don't just try this because I am a pro and have had years of training. Models go to school for 2 years or until all their money runs out - whichever comes first. Hood ornaments have to do 4 years because of the science involved with the added magical skills. Models are never told that they will suck at being a model, well until the money runs out and you need to make sure they stop bothering you, then you tell them that and more. Hood ornaments are rejected all the time.

You can't just rock up to be a hood ornament. Like garden gnomes can't build on their gnome status and automatically become a hood ornament. It is a different skill set completely.

I am available to ornament a hood near you should you be classy enough to need a super hood ornament.

Call me.

I am expensive.

Worth it though ... promise ...


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Monday, June 24, 2013

The Gift That Keeps on Giving.

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This is the outfit I like to wear when performing "I'm a Little Tea Pot" out in my yard on Monday Mornings.

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There are approximately 3,542 variations of the "I'm a Little Tea Pot" song. I am responsible for 3,541 of them and may have even written the original, I am still researching my past lives and will have to get back to you on that.

I think the past life thing is perfect. Researching your past life tree is the perfect gift for someone who has been kicked out of the Mormon Church, or who, having completed their own family tree did not find anyone more interesting than Uncle Lester who was born with a hole in his nose and learned how to blow bubbles that looked like animals through it.

These people can find out that they were someone else and find a family tree worth facebooking about.

It is kinda like, if you are a loser, than just make shit up and someone somewhere is sure to be impressed.

I am pretty sure that is how most politicians do it.

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I think my grandmother tried to do it but they told her that it was pretty hard to try and prove that a child was not yours when the child has been seen running after you for 32 years, at various stages of development, crying for "mommy."

I got her a free session with Almando - Past Life Guy for some sort of known people to some people who live next door to one of the stars from "Love Boat."

For $20 more he will confirm that I am not related to her at all.


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HAIR:  Nylon Outfitters (NO) Banged Slick - Black
EYES:  IKON Sunrise Egyptian Blue
LASHES:  E'Dior
MAKE-UP:  Dulce Secrets  Sea to Sea
MASK AND COLLAR:  [whatever] Gasmask + Nina Collar - black
BODYSUIT:  MoDANNA [my pastel lace bodysuit] navy
JACKET:  Loordes of London-The Underground-Blue
BOOTS:  Leverocci  - Ava OTK Boots_StandardSizing_Python

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Sunday, June 23, 2013

The Reason I Ran.

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Everyone wanted a peasant dress back in my day. A peasant dress, with clogs and your long hair with a braid in it somewhere ... and that was it, you were a honey babe.

No I was not born in Camelot with lowered expectations.

I was a flower child back before just anyone could be a flower child on account of the really worthy flower children were busy with the really good flowers and no-one was watching the door.

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Of course on the farm it was just damn confusing.  I think Shakespeare probably came for farming stock - where a dress is a dress and it really doesn't matter what you call it.

"Mommy why is Bliss wearing a Hutterite Dress?"

"Shh, she thinks it is top fashion and she paid a fortune for it from an expensive dress shop in the city."

"Is Bliss Stupid?"

"Pretty much."

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Do you see what I had to work with??

I had to run wayyyy into the inner city to find stupid enough people to prop me up in my insanity. Those farm people and their way of the cow ... it is enough to drive you mad when you are trying to be cool.

Farmers never got Twiggy. They were all over Mama Cass.


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Saturday, June 22, 2013

Pony Tailings.

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You have to be really careful with ponytails.

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There is such a thing as putting them in too tight. I have pictures of my girls that demonstrate this concern. I also have pics of women in snooty stores which is probably where the "if you keep making that ugly face, one day it is going to stay" came from. You can tell on the kids photos because the kids look wide awake and surprisingly surprised - even when they sleep.

I think this hair do would be a good one to offer to do for an unruly teen ... and then you twist tighter and tighter and just be really busy and unaware of them writhing and screaming, DO NOT LET GO of the hair.

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I would try it on my hubby but I think you have to be able to see the hair first in order to pony tail it.


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EYES:  IKON Eternal Eyes Pewter
LASHES:  E'Dior
JEWELLERY:  FINESMITH  MANGO GIFT
BRACELETS:  LeeZu LalALA bracelet/wood
PURSE:  Meena POE Afghanistan shoulder bag
DRESS:  SAS- Sari Aqua (Mesh)
SHOES:  *SELDOM BLUE* LOLA SHOES
 
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Friday, June 21, 2013

The Real Achievements of Life.

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I think cats are pretty dangerous ... people do not seem to be able to stop at just one. They get one cat and suddenly there are 8 cats, then 23 and then you are on television.

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At some point your outfits just look like one giant furball and your whole house and many of your clothes smell like cat piss which you either cannot smell anymore on account of the ammonia has destroyed your sense of smell or you have lost so many brain cells to the same ammonia that you are now willing to lie about the obvious to your friends and family . . . and yourself.

You have to really wonder when your cat is sitting on your kitchen cupboard and then you prepare your dinner on there and then you eat it.

I am not going to say anything ... you just keep reading that last sentence over until you get what I am talking about and if you can't get it ... well that alone should concern you.

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I used to like cats until I had one, then two, then 8. I staged an intervention for myself.
 
 
I am a recovering cat addict but my clothes no longer smell like cat piss.
 
 
These are the achievements of our lives.




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HAIR:  .ploom Long Day - Indecisive
EYES:  IKON Eternal Eyes Pewter
LASHES:  E'Dior
HAIRBAND:  {le fil casse} la vie en rose headband pink love
SUNGLASSES:  (Yummy) Summer Shades - Mesh
BRACELETS:  Luna's Boutique  ::B::U::B:: Bracelet pink - yellow
NECKLACE:  Ginza Jewelry Kohime GJK Bunny Hop
aDIVA Couture Giselle
NAILS:  - W&Y   Nemezi - Aztec Nails #3
PURSE:  [Crash Republic] Vintage Fair Gift - Zigzag Tote
SUITCASE POSE:  .click. World Traveler 1
SHOES:  Le Poppycock *Flip Flops* kokomo
TOP:  FLOUNCE Cupcakes Pink Cropped Cardigan
SHORTS:   fashionably dead  (fd) Overalls - Light Denim
 
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Thursday, June 20, 2013

I Have a Peer.

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Ayla Zhoy made me buy this outfit. She bullied me into it. She is the pressure amongst my peers. Well to be honest she is one of my only peers.

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I used to hang a sign around my neck advertising as a peer ... hoping someone would pick me up from the side of the road. I even tried the pork chop around my neck but the whole love affair of people with meat is greatly exaggerated.

I went on dating sites saying I was looking for peermance.

I advertised in the personel column for peers that like long walks on the beach.

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I don't think peers can read and they are clearly vegetarians. I would be happy to rent some for just an hour or two so I could take pictures to scrapbook and put in facebook so that I could appear more normal.


Hubby said if that doesn't work, I could always try putting my clothes back on, taking the porkchop off, and coming into the house for supper.


Men try to make incredibly complex problems so simple ...


. . . and they ruin all the fun ...


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EYES:  IKON Eternal Eyes Pewter
LASHES:  E'Dior
EARRINGS:  FINESMITH  - LOUISE EEARRINGS
BRACELET:  Chop Zuey  Kharma Slv Bangles Set
PURSE:   IndyraSashay Clutch bLACK
NAILS: [Bamboo] Nails - Berry Blue
BLOUSE:  AlaFolie (AlaF) MORGANE NOIR chemisier
SKIRT:   AlaFolie (AlaF) MORGANE jupe mi cian
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Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Schizophrenic Me.

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I know it is summer back in Canadaland but it is winter here. I feel kind of schizophrenic at the moment ... I mean more than normal.

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One blog post is half naked in the ocean and the next is kind of rugged up. I like to call it fashion-art or "fart." I am working with the medium of the seasons and trying to paint the dichotomy of the two extremes in the total whole of the piece. (you should have 3 or 4 people bring their stringed instruments to the office to play during parts like these. OH and stick yoour nose way up in the air and have someone pull your hair back into a tight pony tail. If your eyes are not pulled around on each side to where your ears used to be, then you don't have the pony tight enough.)

I can't just relax and go with one season, I am back and forth and back and forth with double spoonfuls of guilt that I am going to be called once again on failing my whole life because I do not currently reside in the US and am not doing it their way. I try so hard to fit in and be accepted and do you have any idea how much of a handicap it is to be a non-american? Like I am already in the dirt under the sub basement trying to claw my way up the house into the popular girls closet. I have visions of the girls in that closet pointing at my faux pas of wearing warm clothes in the summer and putting up Anti-Bliss fly paper all over the house again.

 I thought of trying hybirds ... you know bathing suit top, snow pant bottoms, ear muff and flip flops . . . . but I was concerned I would lose my respected position amongst the bloggers of the scum that pond scum gets when it is ... scummy. So ya ... I am just gonna be neurotic and not know where I am and what season it is. I am just gonna do my own thing, over here, by myself, in the corner under the dead cockroach.

Oh wait a minute, how silly, this is not going to be nearly as bad as I thought it was ....

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... under the cockroach is where my desk is ... hahahahaha. I guess it is true what they say about you worry about silly things that will probably never happen. I am going to do a t-shirt to wear to remind myself and you should probably get your crayons out right now, and gather everyone and have some art time.

Tell them it is "fart" because it is fashion art. My T-Shirt will say "When you worry that something you did was so bad that people are going to judge you and banish you to live under a dead cockroach and that will make you cry and want your mommy, always remember to look up. If you see a dead cockroach, and your mommy is nowhere to be found, stop worrying, you are already living that nightmare. Just think to yourself that Jesus wants you for a sunbeam and that at least you are not a cockroach."

It may have to be a dress.

I could blog that.


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HAIR:  TRUTH  Sonya
EYES:  IKON Eternal Eyes Forest
LASHES:  E'Dior
NAILS: [Bamboo] Nails  - Win Million
EARRINGS:  FuLo - Star Earrings - gem change
SCARF:  Gracie's Bridal   Posh Beebe Luxury Scarf
PURSE:  +plus absolut essential
TOP:  Baiastice  Allydora shirt-black
JACKET:  Loordes of London -The Underground-Leather Jackets Moss for Acid Lily
PANTS:   Baiastice _Milano trousers-cool grey
SHOES:  Mirror's Enigma  [:ME:] Jen's Ankle Shoes Black
 
 
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JUDGING SECOND LIFE!

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We sit behind the computer where our real identities, for the most part, are hidden.  We can say and do whatever we want and there are few real consequences.  We can trash other people, hurt them terribly, lie to them and about them and generally criticize everything and everyone.  In fact, we feel justified.

 

In real life when you run around making comments about what everyone else is doing, how they are doing it, and what they look like when they are doing it .... you eventually face some pretty unpleasant consequences which serve to offer you a super big helping of "STFU."  Here in SL, people tend to get more bold after each attack they make.  They start to feel very powerful and with a chorus of sheeple to "baaa" their approval ... It can be intoxicating.

 

In the real world we have started to express our disgust at the people who stand around during the fight  screaming "kick her, kick her again" but in SL these people are basically free to carry on without any sense of how cruel they sound just "baaing" their approval.  Your chat window pops up and someone posts something that the rest of the group deems wrong/inappropriate/or against the rules.  Few ever allow that it may have been an honest mistake or misunderstanding.  If they do, they are silent as the hounds circle.  Not only will people jump all over the entry, they begin to attack the person and laugh with each other about what should be done to the person ... most of which is far worse than "kick her, kick her again."  But then, no-one probably knows that person and they probably aren't even from the same country so no-one is going to be kept awake by someone else crying themselves to sleep, or even jumping out a window for that matter.

 

As we mature in life, we try out expressions of who we are and what we look like and how we want to define ourselves.  Eventually necessity takes over in one form or the other and we are forced to put on the "uniform" of societal acceptance and adopt the general consensus on everything from how we look to how we act.  We get little breakthroughs of sunshine ... perhaps we have some creative expression we fit in on Tuesday nights ... but for the most part ... we have been assimilated.

 

So we show up in SL and suddenly we have the ability to be anything.  We can look like anything.  We can do anything we want to.   AND  ... We are not alone in that endeavour.  There are a whole group of people who stick to the same norms of real life and try to make their avatars "pretty" or "striking" by RL standards.  We have the whole modelling scene where the models must be thin and have a strict body type and that is fine, although they may be surprised to know there are people who think they are sick sick sick to be perpetrating the same garbage as real life.  It is like shopping at Walmart your whole life, then being given access to the greatest creations offered by the greatest designers and still insisting on wearing Walmart - because it is what you know and like.  Others experiment and choose deviations and abstracts.  If we had someone in here analyzing it all they would most likely be able to find all the links to our lives and experiences that allow us to interpret ourselves, or some aspect of ourselves or a character we choose to identify with and play, in the way we do.  Everyone is happy with their expression of that.  YOU got to choose what you look like.  SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM WITH ALLOWING OTHERS TO DO THE SAME??

 

Somehow we have to find a way to get over this - "I do it this way and this is the only right way and everyone else should think and do as I do and anyone who doesn't is an ass."   Not everyone interprets things the same.  Not everyone agrees on what is beautiful.  It is ok.  It is what makes life interesting.  To me, one of the greatest lessons SL offers is that we are not our bodies.  We are not the sum total of what is visible to the world.  We are not better people because of money.  We are not more talented because we have had opportunities to hold important jobs.  LOOK around you ... Look at the talent, the breadth, the depth, the scope of it.  Look at the people who society has forgotten, turned their backs on, ignored ... who have come in here and are now your favourite designer, your best friend, your lover.  Just because their life experiences have not been kind does not make them less than anyone.  Just because people are poor does not make them poor people.  Just because they do not have the surgically altered body of a movie star does not make them incapable of love.  And just because you cannot see them, believe me, they still bleed when you cut them.

 

If you want to continue to limit your experience with life and people to those that match you ... your life may be the saddest of them all because you are choosing bread and water at a banquet table of food waiting to be enjoyed.  But you know what?  You are allowed to choose bread and water.  Just don't tell everyone else that they have to limit themselves to those same two choices.


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Swimming in the Ocean.

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I remember the big lecture from the grandparents about not peeing in the pool.

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It seemed pretty straight forward to me and as I was never tempted to pee willy nilly, I was pretty good with the whole concept. Bathrooms - pee there. Anywhere else - don't pee there.

Unfortunately my brother was a boy. He, like many boys, takes peeing everywhere as a personal goal.

He did however agree that peeing in the pool was not a good thing.

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However when we got to the ocean, all bets were off. He said it was because all the fish had peed in their already.

He had a point.

I don't swim in the ocean.
 
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Tuesday, June 18, 2013

SL Relationship Interviews - No. 3 Shaye Windlow.

Romance Interviews
 
In your relationship (s) who has usually been the instigator? If it was not you, were you even thinking of finding a relationship or were you "persuaded" into one?

When I first came to SL my first relationship well I went out looking for someone. I found someone an we hit it off. Even though I was looking he pursued me and I loved it. From that point on I think I was the Instigator, even though at times I was hit on by men an women I think I am the Instigator when it comes to any relationship that becomes serious cause if I don’t click with you in any way shape or form they can keep on walking.

I had one person try to persuade me into a relationship but if I don’t feel a click with a person or have anything in common I just don’t waste my time or energy.


Is there a typical first date? What is it like? Do you actually do things in SL or is it just about the relationship on the internet and you happened to meet in SL?

No matter what sim or setting it seems to be music an dancing.   Depending on the person I have to say I have been fortunate with a few good guys in SL when it comes to love an generosity.. I have had 3 men that I loved an still do to this day.  I do things in SL I build some for the fun, I use to teraform and loved doing it. I love to sim hop still to this day to explore an find new things. I used to love shop could never have enough of whatever it was I have spent way to much money in game


After the first date, what do you typically do together?

I love to talk if it is going to work I find that there is never a moment where there is a loss for words.

 
How quickly did you know it was love? 

With each partner has been different when the moment hit me that I knew I had fallen in love.

 
How big a role did sex play in this? Was it confined to SL or did it spill outside of it?

Sex wasn’t the big thing for me in Second Life! Although I played along with the sex, I never really enjoyed it.  When it came to men it stayed strictly in Second Life I didn’t cross that line sexually, two of my partners an I talk in real life via face book but it is all clean no sex talk out side of second life.


How does SL enhance or detract from the sexual aspects of a relationship, if it was part of yours.

Sex really never mattered to me.


What was your real life situation and were you honest about it to your partner(s) ?

I’m single in real.


What was your partner(s) real life situation and were they honest?

I think most of mine was honest when it come to there marital situations. I preferred not to be involved with a married man in second life if there married in real life seems to me its Betrayal to there wife if they are unaware. Some knew an played second life an were married in second life an told me it was used in order to help them relax sexually in second life. When it came uncomfortable for me I would usually talk an say my goodbyes. I did relax an not feel like I might be causing harm there real life relationship at some point in the game.


Do you think it is possible for two people to have a relationship in second life on one level and another relationship in real life? Why and how could that work or not work?

The few married couples I have known in game some have strengthen them an some have caused divorces.


Did you meet in real life? How did that go? Was it as satisfying as your SL experience? (if no skip next two questions) 

I haven’t met anyone from second life in real life. People lie to much to be trusted about who they really are in real life. I have done that before from dating services an they were nothing like they said in there Profiles.


What, if anything, were you most disappointed about?

How easy it seems for people to forget there real life morals an that real life people are behind each avatar. Not caring how they hurt people n how easy it is for people to use people


What, if anything, was the most pleasant surprise?

Living an being able to meet so many people from all over the world. I have made some good friends that has carried over into real life too.


Did you marry in SL? If so, what kind of a wedding and what was the expense involved?

 I have been married in SL 2x I guess I spent 10k on both give or take a few Lindens.


Did you have children? How was that?

I had one prim baby it was nice pretending to be pregnant. Then I was given another Prim baby. But my kid avatars are the best I adopted several but 3 have been with me through it all. I talk to two of them in real life too. I love them an they me just like we family in real life.


How long did the whole relationship last? How long after the marriage did it last? Is it still ongoing? 

How long did the whole relationship last? How long after the marriage did it last? Is it still ongoing? I had one other relationship before my first marriage he left coz I got pregnant an people told him I was cheating. I still had the baby I went the full 9 months an yes my husband that I married his name was on birth certificate.

My first marriage was about 4 months before marriage maybe longer then we were married for 6 months before he cheated with what he thought was a woman lol. The she/he IM me an ask me if I had an open marriage I said no so she/he tp me in on them having sex. My husband tp right out naked as a jay bird lol. I divorced him same day. I don’t take cheating in real life an im sure not in a game either. We made up later an was going to get back together about a yr later but he got caught by accident fucking another woman well she/he. We have stayed friends in real life an I am good friends with his real life mom.

I was single for some time just dating here an there met another through a girl friend in game it was her real life hubby. He came to game to be my man coz we had talked via mic when she was online. We dated for about 3 months got married an w were together for about a yr he got shot in real life. Were friends in real life too he just never came back to game after getting shot. His wife was giving him grief about his feelings toward me an he was spending money on me an before he came to game she was limited on what she could spend but he was spoiling me an she got jealous.

After that marriage broke up I have just dated had one serious relationship that lasted a 1 ½ yrs but he got where he was not coming on for months at a time so I broke up. Were still friends in game an real life too.


If applicable, how did you ultimately break up? Did either of you cheat on the other?

Answer is above in those answers .


Ever been caught by a third party that also claimed a relationship with your partner? Were you blamed for the situation?

I never cheated just my first husband that I told you about how he cheated an I was tp in on.


Are you still friends?

Yes.


What, if anything, do you regret the most?

Trusting to easy I wear my heart on my sleeve.


What, if anything, did you gain?

10 good friends that has carried into real life.


How many relationships do you think you have had in SL?

Serious Relationships 4 not the type for just hook up relationships. Had a 2 that I dated just to have someone to do something with but didn’t fall in love with.


What is your opinion on relationships in SL and are they healthy for people to get involved in? What are the key points people should consider before getting involved?
 
I think some can be healthy specially for some due real life situations it gives them something they cant have in real life. Key points what they want out of the relationship some want that real life blending into SL which I think can be dangerous. But it is dangerous for married people in real life coming to game an playing separate saying it is going to help there real life marriage I have dated a couple of guys who are married in real an it has put a strain on them . I have been ask how I keep my real out, I just do I share some real when you with someone for a long time it happens, but I am not meeting no one in real from SL an I’m single. I like being single in real.


Final Comments?

I have left SL a few times due to boredom of the game. But come back just to talk to my good friends from real too an just to kick back I don’t stay on like I did when I first joined I would be on 24/7 now I am hit an miss thing is I can get on 1 day a week or if I do daily is for a hour or 2. I got to much going on in real that I need to do to sit on SL. I have chose real life over Second Life.


This is the second of the next series of interviews for Blissimo concerning SL. This series is all about relationships. You can read the first interview here:

Interview 1 - Anonymous Female
Interview 2 - Anonymous Female 2

This next series is probably a bit more revealing, and I anticipate that people will me more reluctant to share their actual names. I have no problem with that because the point of these interviews is to stimulate discussion, not to persecute or praise individuals. I appreciate the honesty the subjects have provided in sharing bits of themselves for that purpose. As with the first subject, I have asked for anyone interested to contact me and I will send them the questions. I can be reached in SL, here, or via email: blisswindlow@hotmail.com
 

Jennifer Has Spoken.

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Jennifer Aniston just admitted that she goes nude around her house all the time, whenever she can, especially when she is cooking.

And I believe her.

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Angelina Jolie shared that she had both her breasts removed so that she could avoid cancer and thousands of women immediately lined up at their doctors office wanting the same thing done.

Women everywhere already copy Jennifer's hair so I can only assume that many will also be throwing off their clothes and wandering around their houses nude ... immediately ... especially when they are cooking . . . like probably for dinner tonight.

Don't even ask why ... it is enough that Jen is doing it. (You are allowed to take liberties with the names of people you imitate. It saw it written in a Woman's Magazine once.)

I know I will be naked when I cook supper tonight.

I know it because I am already naked.

The moment I read that, the sheep in me over took my body and I threw off my clothes. It was only when my husband grabbed the magazine and pointed out to me that it said "around her home" that I put my clothes back on in the mall and then waited until I got home to take them off again.

I am home now and naked.

In a little bit I will be making dinner naked.

Then I will watch TV naked.

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So you might wanna think carefully before you just drop in on people around supper time these days ... Jennifer Aniston has spoken and there will be a lot of naked women tonight. Like has there ever been a better plan to make sure the kids don't move back home?


SKIN:  Glam Affair - Margot - Petal 03 from Collabor88
HAIR:  Analog Dog AD - pip
EYES:  IKON  Lucid Eyes - Aegean
LIPSTICK:  Mirror's Enigma
LASHES:  E'Dior
JEWELLERY: Donna Flora (DF) PANDA aqua set
DRESS:  fashionably dead (fd) Boatneck Dress - Teal Pink from Collabor88
SHOES:  fashionably dead   (fd) Bowie Heels (Floral 2)
POSES:  Hopscotch
LOCATION:  Camomile
 
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Thinking.

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I was just thinking. I know that this will excite some of you and strike fear in the hearts of others. To be honest, you should pay more attention to the people who are afraid of me. They will probably live longer.

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We had tye-dyed shirts when I was growing up. Pretty easy - throw some paint on a shirt and the more wild it was the better. Worked well for clothes with stuff accidentally thrown on it - throw some more on it and call it designer. Can you imagine if we were putting stuff on t-shirts like they do now ... take a picture of whatever and put it on a t-shirt?? I am talking the prairies here.

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I can just see all the kids with their 4-H prize winning steer or their favourite horse or the new tractor ... wow ... life could have been soooo exciting.

They can do that now of course, but kids on the farm have more options today, thanks to those of us who broke out and send back picture postcards of the real world.

I am a farm activist. I spoke up against wheat and plaid before anyone else ever found the courage. I should be on a t-shirt or something ... right next to a picture of my pet pig "fluffy."


SKIN:  Pink Fuel  [PF] Harley
HAIR:  AlliandAli Designs Loreen Hair
EYES:  IKON  Lucid Eyes - Aegean
LASHES:  E'Dior
NECKLACE:  LUMINESSE-Delicato Amore Aqua Gold Pendant
EARINGS:  FINESMITH - LOUISE EEARRINGS
TOP:  Glow Designs .:GD:. Strapless Dress White Horse
LEGGINGS:  DeeTaleZ Pants wool tights white diamond
SHOES:  N-core ULTRAPLATFORM "Noir Intense"
POSES:  Filthy
LOCATION:  GOSH
 
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